How not to worry about anything. Consequences of constant stress. After the breakup
"All diseases are from nerves!" Today, many people repeat this phrase. If you find a way to stop being nervous over trifles and become calmer, then, as they say, you will be both happy and healthy ...
You can try to become calm, using the recommendations of psychologists, they often give advice: start meditating or throw out the negative on paper, do not keep it in yourself, say affirmations, go to a deserted place and shout properly. As a rule, all methods offer to relieve the already accumulated tension, but what should be done so that it does not arise? How to stop worrying about trifles?
Doctors meet with such patients every day, they always ask the question of how to stop being nervous. Everyone has anxiety, stress and its different manifestations. Most often, sedatives are prescribed, something harmless and light, on herbs. But there is practically no effect or it is short-lived.
So how do you stop worrying about trifles?
Now we are not talking about severe stresses, such as losing a job or serious problems in personal life. We are talking about the little things that poison the lives of us and those close to us - the elevator is delayed, the nail is broken, the phone runs out of power at the wrong time, the transport is crowded, etc.
This is irritation for the slightest reason, when everyone is enraged both at home and at work. There may be incomprehensible fears or inexplicable anxiety from scratch. Often the excitement of an excellent student before an exam is of the same nature.
These events seem like trifles from the outside. For an irritated person, this is a disaster, he begins to freak out, then he remains exhausted, but he cannot calm down and not worry.
Meanwhile, there is a way to significantly increase your stress resistance. You can become calm and balanced with the help of the training "Systemic Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan.
Why experiences appear
For some, the reaction to stress is manifested by feelings and fears, for some it is rashes on the skin and itching, for others it is an intestinal disorder or arrhythmia. Everyone is bad, but bad in different ways. And this is due to the peculiarities of the psyche of a particular person. Understanding this device, you can make your life much easier.
Training "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan reveals the true causes of irritation. Any person experiences stress and dissatisfaction with life when he is unaware of his natural desires or ignores them, trying to live according to someone else's program. It seems to us that we want a little: love, prosperity, world peace. What does a person really want? We can only guess about this!
For example, a tender, sensitive girl loses her peace. She, a representative of the visual vector, was born for love, she, like air, needs elevated feelings and strong emotional ties. This is her way of coping with the fear of being alone. Breaking emotional ties can lead to causeless fears, anxiety, panic attacks, sleep disturbances and vision problems.
Nervous "dumpling", which by any means wants to become a slender model. She exhausts herself with endless diets and long hours in the gym. Then I want to bite someone. I'm ready to give everything in the world for a pie. And kilograms continue to spoil the "problem" places.
How to stop being nervous and worried
To stop being nervous and worried, you need to understand those people with whom you have to face and contact. Do you understand them? Are you sure?
It happens that a person sees in others a manifestation of some character traits that he himself does not have, and he considers these properties to be a defect or gaps in education. Experiences and constant indignation loosen his nerves. And the irritant does not need to strengthen the nervous system, he sleeps peacefully anyway. In system-vector psychology, people's reaction to the annoying behavior of others is explained.
There are people who lose their temper when faced with slowness and slowness at home or at work. It is incomprehensible how you can swing and turn in one direction for half an hour, when during this time you can run back and forth. These are carriers of the skin vector. They themselves are fast and agile. Can do several things at the same time. And write, and listen, and also communicate on the phone. They consider a slow, balanced person, who is the carrier of the anal vector, a brake. Out of resentment at the lost time, they may begin to itch and their skin to break out in rashes.
And slow people get on their nerves with skin rushes that take on everything at once, make a blunder and often do not complete what they started. Well, how can you become calmer and not nervous? It is necessary to COMPLETE, bring to an ideal state, and not throw it halfway. When such people are pulled and hurried, they often complain of heart failure, abdominal pain and stool problems.
How to stop being nervous over trifles and be healthy
System-vector psychology explains that a person always has in his asset the appropriate properties for the realization of his natural desires.
A girl with an anal vector was born to be a hostess, she is homely and cozy, knows how to cook deliciously, sew and knit. She doesn't want to be a model. Her natural desire is to create a family, run a house, bring comfort, raise children. She, with a penchant for working with papers, assiduous and scrupulous, will not become a successful sales manager. Make her do an unloved thing and at the same time push and hurry - she is provided with worries and stress.
A quick and dexterous owner of the skin vector, who needs change like air, will want a change in impressions and movement at work. He is incapable of being carried away by monotonous reports. Therefore, it is difficult to imagine him as a calm accountant. Deprive him of movement, put him in the office to deal with some papers, problems may appear - flickering, anxiety and itching, pain in the spine.
Become calmer and learn to live among people
We are constantly nervous over trifles, and our daily life is made up of a series of small events. And the meeting, and the look, and the conversation can become a reason for experiences. Learn to understand others, and they will stop annoying you. A look filled with understanding and joy will eventually meet with warmth and understanding in return.
We often say that our nerves are completely loose, that we need to calm our nerves. But how? A modern person lives in an atmosphere of constant stress and it is difficult for him to stop being nervous. We have little contact with nature, too often we meet with strangers. We are affected by sounds that we do not seem to pay attention to - the noises of the city, other people's conversations, other people's music. We become irritable and throw out our irritation on those who are nearby or close the irritation in ourselves, but this leads to illness and shortens our life.
How to calm your nerves and relieve stress
First, you need to take care of your health. You need to see if you have enough vitamins and microelements - with a lack of these substances, the body does not work properly, we are more prone to stress and depression. Eat more chocolate, strawberries and bananas, which contribute to the production of joy hormones in the body. Drink soothing herbal teas.
Learn to find joy in small things - in good weather, in what children make us happy, in the smile of an outsider, in a good movie, book, etc.
Protect yourself from unpleasant spectacles, switch an aggressive action movie to a calm movie or an educational program. Listen to soothing, measured, rather than dancing, making the heart beat in an imposed fast rhythm, music.
Reward yourself more often for achievements, praise yourself, love yourself. A person who loves himself and accepts himself as he is is much less likely to “break down”. Confidence in yourself and your actions makes you less vulnerable to criticism.
Meditation, gymnastics, shower will help to calm down
Tell yourself that you are calm. To relax, take a walk, listen to the birds singing or the sound of the forest.
Get some exercise. Lack of movement is also one of the sources of stress. Sport can help not only keep the body in good shape, but also strengthen the will, and therefore help calm the nerves.
Use the healing features of water - swim, visit the pool, take a contrast shower.
Learning to control ourselves
Set a goal to "calm your nerves." Analyze why you are nervous, understand that in many cases your reaction is not justified by the current situation.
Learn to control yourself. Release aggression in a way that is safe for everyone - direct it towards achieving any difficult goals and overcoming obstacles.
How to learn to calm your nerves
In the modern world, every person experiences serious emotional stress, stress, and nervous breakdowns. Of course, in such a situation, it is necessary to be able to take control of your emotions and learn to calm your nerves. Of course, there are many ways to calm down, so each person can choose what suits him.
The simplest method, which, however, not everyone resorts to to calm their nerves, is to count to ten and only then start talking. Do not forget that while doing this you need to breathe deeply - this will saturate the blood with oxygen, make the brain work more efficiently, which means you will not think about the moments that disturb you.
You need to be able to be distracted from the subject that irritates or annoys you. It is necessary to remain optimistic in any situation.
Don't let yourself worry. Do not scold or blame yourself for what happened. It would be better to analyze why this situation arose and what needs to be done so that it does not happen again.
You need to rest more often. To stop being nervous, you need to go in for sports, walk in the fresh air, because when we get tired, we become irritable and nervous, and this does not affect our health in the best way.
No need to constantly think about the negative moments in your past. It is better to think only about positive events. As soon as you remember something negative, you need to distract yourself and occupy yourself with some interesting thing.
Want to calm your nerves? Then you need to consume as few foods as possible that contain stimulants - these include coffee and strong tea. In addition, alcoholic beverages and tobacco also negatively affect our ability to calm the nerves.
Try not to rush. Constant haste is the cause of stressful situations, so you need to learn how to manage your time. Try to avoid overexertion.
Learn to ignore minor annoyances or treat them with humor.
Accept that you are not perfect and you never will be. It is impossible to please everyone, and if you make increased demands on yourself, then nothing good will come of it. Don't waste your time and nerves.
How to Stop Worrying and Be Calm
Sometimes, even a person who is usually calm and balanced can experience nervousness. The reasons for this nervousness can be some troubles and problems in the family or at work, chronic fatigue and others. Anxiety is detrimental to health. Therefore, every effort must be made to overcome it.
Nervousness will not help solve problems, but on the contrary, it will only aggravate the reaction to problems. You have to try to understand what is causing it. If possible, you need to moderate the psychological and physical stress, it’s also good to take a vacation or time off to calm your nerves.
Your sleep is important. First of all, you need to make sure that the sleeping place is as comfortable as possible, and the room in which you sleep is periodically ventilated. Often, nervousness appears due to elementary lack of sleep. If possible, you need to increase the rest time.
The simplest joys of life
Nutrition is also an important factor. Heavy, indigestible food will not allow the body to fully recover. You should follow a sparing diet, eat easily digestible foods, but you should not reduce calories. To stop being nervous, try not to drink drinks that excite the nervous system: cocoa, tea, coffee. Or at least limit their use as much as possible. Try to replace them with natural juices, herbal decoctions, mineral water. At night, you can drink sedative fees, which are sold in pharmacies.
To calm your nerves, you should walk more often, breathe fresh air. If you live in a large city, try to get out into the park or into the forest at least for the weekend. Quiet rest in nature restores nerves very well.
Looking for joy in everything
Any change of scenery can have a positive effect. If you want to stop being nervous, change the environment if possible. Go on a trip abroad, to the sea, to the mountains. New impressions will have a good effect on the emotional and psychological state.
You need to try to get as many positive emotions as possible. Do what makes you happy. Going to cafes or parties, playing sports, perfectly calms and tones swimming. You can watch entertaining and humorous programs, go to the cinema or to the theater. The more positive emotions you have in your life, the less space there will be for nervousness.
Hello everyone, friends!
In this article, you will learn how to stop being nervous all the time for any reason, over trifles, trifles, at work and at home. The following methods will help you calm down and feel good.
Many people worry very often and strongly for various reasons: circumstances, events and problems that arise along the way. And it's not strange!
But at the same time, nerves have a tremendous negative impact on the body, up to stomach ulcers, stroke and other serious diseases of internal organs.
And when old problems and difficulties are solved, a person begins to worry about others, which saves him from the full joy of life. And therefore, you need to learn and control yourself in order to prevent the possibility of being nervous for any reason.
Today I will tell you not only how not to be nervous or stop doing it for a while, but also how to remove and eliminate this state in yourself as much as possible in order to remain morally stable in any difficult situation.
How to finally stop being nervous for any reason?
1. Solve problems as they come.
No matter how trite this phrase sounds. I give 100% that you do not use it constantly. You need to solve the problems that require it at the moment, otherwise you will simply burst! Never at any time attempts to solve everything and immediately did not bring any result.
If you think about all the past troubles, defeats, and the fact that somewhere something can somehow happen sometime and strongly soar about it, trying to influence, then you will only worsen your emotional state. Something has happened, there is no need to sit and be nervous, but it is better to focus your attention on how you can solve it.
2. Live in today's compartment.
No need to worry about what was and what will be. What matters is what happens in the moment. I'm not saying that you need to live one day (although happy people do this), you certainly need to make plans, strive to achieve them, but this is not about that now.
It is important to understand that in order not to destroy your nerve cells, you need to devote yourself to today as much as possible, and live it usefully and qualitatively for yourself and those around you. And then there will be no reason to worry.
3. Gather all the facts and analyze them.
Each of us is nervous for our own specific reasons, in order to eliminate this, write down for yourself on a separate sheet of paper all the sources of anxiety, everything that worries you and gives rise to this feeling. After compiling a detailed list, analyze each item individually. Find the causes and roots of your anxiety.
And when you find it, immediately begin to act towards solving the problems that make you nervous, unless of course you can influence them personally or indirectly ... If not, then ...
4. Accept the inevitable.
Perhaps such a situation, an event, an incident that you cannot influence in any way. And in this case, you just need to accept the situation as a given, as something that cannot be changed in any way.
For example, if you kept money in dollars, and its value has fallen sharply, then here you will not be able to influence much, unfortunately, in order for it to grow rapidly in price, because it depends on a huge number of factors.
Or, for example, at the university you tried to pass the test for 5, but passed for 4 and retake is no longer possible, it was the last day. Or lightning hit your lawn in the country and completely gutted your apple tree. Yes, all this is not pleasant, but nothing can be changed. The only way to save your nerves is to accept what has already happened or will happen as inevitable.
Remember "If the water has flowed away, then with its help it is no longer possible to grind the grain."
5. Determine what could be the worst.
In a situation where it is difficult to somehow control yourself, and not be nervous at all about what might happen, the best method is to determine what can happen in the worst case. And when you understand and accept this, most likely it will not be so bad and catastrophic.
For example, when I was still 19 years old, I first earned quite serious money for me at that time and decided to invest it in business.
And I understood the risk of my investments, and yet I decided (the amount was very significant for me, I won’t disclose it, but I’ll say, to make it clear, I could live for 1 year without working and without denying myself anything).
And at that moment I said to myself: “the worst thing that can happen is that I will lose this money.” I invested, and the investment did not pay off, more than I lost it all. But if I walked and was nervous, then it would definitely not have become better for me. And this technique helped me a lot to prevent this. I advise you to use it too.
By the way, about that. how to control yourself, I will soon write a separate article and video, therefore, I advise you if you want to learn how to do this all the time.
6. Get busy.
Any business that is interesting, entertaining, or about something that may need to be done around the house, for example, calms well and distracts from a stressful situation. If you get into one, switch to some activity and it will help you. stop being nervous.
7. Don't worry about other people's opinions.
Trust me, you shouldn't. Many people worry about what others think of them. But in fact, most of you ...... don't give a damn, they have enough worries of their own to even think about you. So you can do whatever you want, within reason of course. By the way, it helps a lot, so use it and don't worry.
8. Don't expect others to live up to your expectations.
Often parents, relatives, friends, acquaintances, couples, expect from each other exactly what they would like, those qualities that are not there, those actions. which are not performed. In general, you do not need to be angry with them that they are not what you would like them to be. We are all different and you are not perfect either.
You should not find fault with trifles and worry about the fact that something is not right in a person, because an adult cannot be changed ... if ... by the way, about this in a separate article ... so if you want to know how to make a person be like Do you want or do what you need, then stay tuned for updates so as not to miss this and other interesting articles.
9. Do not invent a problem for yourself.
It happens that in anticipation of some event, we begin to turn on our imagination strongly, wind up thinking about what could happen, come up with the worst options and begin to get very nervous because of them.
If you really can’t change this in any way, then stop worrying (remember the first tips). You have already done everything in order to get the result, or even if not everything. the action is done! What will happen. that will be. You need to understand and relax.
10. Accept that you are not perfect.
If you do not like yourself, then this is only a minus for you, because you will always find shortcomings in yourself - in height, weight, appearance, mind, character, etc. But do not worry about this, because no one is perfect, neither you nor I, you need to agree and accept.
At the same time, no one forbids you to improve, develop, improve external physical data and internal qualities.
Of course, these are far from all the tips that I would like to give, and therefore in the following articles I will continue to talk about how to stop worrying, worrying and start living fully without worries, at least 10 more tips that you should learn about and that you will also help, already in the head.
It happens that we are looking for complex recipes to improve the quality of life. We think: “I’ll go to yoga, so I’ll immediately become calmer.” And of course, we do not go to yoga. And we have a sincere excuse - why do we feel so bad. There is no good yoga in the area! Sadly...
Nevertheless, there are primitive emergency self-help remedies that have been used for centuries for stress, irritation, frustration, in a situation where someone or something is eating away at your brain.
They were used for recommendations by general practitioners (and not only) of the old school. Of those who took the patient by the hand, and that already felt better from this. Self-help tips were taught by physiotherapists, masseurs and sports instructors. Advice now costs more and is more difficult to formulate. Self-help is suppressed, this is not a market approach.
And we will return to the good old days, when self-help was welcomed.
Method 1 Take a break
This way to relieve emotional stress is suitable in cases where you are trapped, cornered and cannot escape anywhere. For example, sit at a planning meeting and listen to your boss, boiling internally. You can't escape, but... At the same time, being distracted by the contemplation of something extraneous, neutral and infatuation with this extraneous is the best way not to wind yourself up over trifles.
For example: "What, however, Masha's manicure ... I wonder how she did it?"
It only works if you yourself understand the benefits of such a strategy - do not look at the nasty things, do not listen to the nasty things. If you like to boil and get into disputes, this is your right.
Method 2 Get out of the annoying situation (it is also an emotional zone)
Did something make you sad at someone else's birthday party? On a picnic? Do you hate some group, public, page on a social network? Do you dream of removing an unpleasant person from your friends list?
So, quickly left the group forever. They banned a provocateur-debater, a troll, a boor, a fool. Deleted your profile, if that.
They quickly called a taxi (don’t sting, don’t sting), smacked the hostess and rush home - away from the party, away from the barbecue, away from the annoying, emotional zone.
Method 3 Drink some water
Now this is the crown recipe of all brilliant general practitioners who do not sell dietary supplements from pharmaceutical corporations.
A glass of water, drunk slowly, stops all seizures known to science. The first thing that is offered to a person who has been twisted by something terrible is a glass of water. Drinking water starts the mechanism of self-rehabilitation of the body. Most often, people become ill for two reasons:
- hysteria (sympatho-adrenal crisis in a different way),
- dehydration not noticed in time.
Since we don’t listen to our body and don’t teach life safety, we drink tea, coffee and soda all day long - we all have dehydration, and you have it too. Go drink a glass of water right now and then read on.
Method 4 Get Involved in an Exciting, Interesting Thing
This method is suitable in a situation where you cannot “let go”. You need to break the jam on chewing “And they, And I, And yes, all of them” with something flying, even stupid and tasteless. Reading detective. Computer game. Hunting and gathering. Surveillance and tracking. An attempt to reveal someone's secret. Even peeping and eavesdropping, damn it.
You must be involved in intrigue, in a detective story, in the rapid development of events, in a hunt, in a game, in courage, in flight.
Your ears should rise and your tail should twitch.
You yourself know what can captivate and amuse you. Everyone has their own, individual. Just don't play this game. Do no harm to anyone.
Method 5 Physical Discharge
Everyone is familiar with this method by hearsay, but, as usual, no one cares. And I remind you once again that the rapid physical discharge, which includes:
- walking,
- swim,
- general cleaning of the apartment (you can - someone else's),
- sex,
- trash destruction,
- work in the garden
- dance,
- floor washing and hand washing
relaxes knotted muscles and relieves stress, frustration fantastically effectively. General hand washing even helps to cope with grief - again, the advice of the old doctor, which I share with you.
Method 6 Make contact with water
Washing dishes is a free hypno-psycho-therapy session. The noise of clean running running water relieves our fatigue and takes away with it all the "dirt", not only household.
In addition to washing dishes, there is a well-known classic: take a bath, take a shower, go to the bathhouse, go early in the morning or in the evening - swim in the sea, in the river, in the lake, in the spring. Refresh, in short.
Method 7 Positive reframing of a stressful event
So much has been written about positive reframing (including by me) that I don’t want to repeat myself. I'll just give an example:
“It’s good that it happened that I won’t go anywhere this summer! Finally, I look like English courses, fitness and even self-development courses! When else would I allow myself such a "useless" luxury? Yes, and in the summer there is a dead season everywhere and there are only discounts around. So I'll save even more!"
Method 8 Could be worse, others even harder
You are not satisfied with the outcome of the event? Imagine what could have been a worse outcome. Imagine how bad some people around you are. If you master this art and stop turning your nose up at this strategy, then you will not need any psychotherapy at all.
Method 9 Laughter kills everything terrible and terribly important
Ridiculing, lowering, vulgarizing something inflated and important is an old recipe for human culture, dating back to the Neolithic. Thanks to grandfather Bakhtin for his term "carnival-laughter culture". Read, ask.
Or watch one episode about the adventures of SpongeBob SquarePants. When he was terrified of speaking at a school seminar, a smart squirrel gave him super glasses. Wearing these glasses, SpongeBob saw all the students and the teacher... in their shorts. That was funny! True, from laughter, he did not read out his report. And what were the teacher's panties .. Mmm ...
Method 10 Count to 10
Just read to ten. Slowly. Controlling your inhalations and exhalations. To myself, not out loud. This is the recommendation of doctors and sports coaches.
Method 11 Cry
Crying relieves stress. With the tear fluid, the body leaves those toxic substances that are formed under the influence of stress hormones. You can’t cry about your own - come up with a pitiful topic and specifically cry over it.
Method 12 Verbalization of everything that is on the soul
Pronunciation or verbalization - wrapping a vague "something" in clear words. However, great thing. And even better - write it all down on paper, write a long letter.
Just don't send it anywhere!
Here are 12 tips for dealing with stress and the diseases that stress causes.
These 12 are those who help us and do not require money for it. And the rest is expensive and from charlatans.
"Calm down and don't be nervous" is a really infuriating phrase! How not to be nervous and not worry when the child doesn’t call (how did he get to school?), at work the boss is angry and always makes claims (it’s scary to appear in his eyes!), My husband yesterday accused me of big expenses (shopping calms nerves, how does he explain?). In general, every hour there is a "new introductory", the slightest reason makes you nervous, worried, lose self-control.
“... Just a few lectures and everything has changed dramatically. I became calm and patient. I stopped yelling at my son completely. I don't scream and I don't want to. I wanted changes in my life, changes in my relationship with my son, especially with my son - this is what I got from the SVP training. And I got much more than I wanted ... "
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The article was written using the training materials "Systemic Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan
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