Sexy woman through the eyes of a man. The ideal woman in the eyes of a man - what she should be

Almost every man at least once in his life experienced the fear that the girl he liked might be easily accessible. And almost every man has the sin of testing a woman "for strength." Before deciding to enter into a serious relationship, men often conduct rapid tests on the availability, decency and decency of a woman.

Canons of male thinking

In terms of relationships, men think in extremes and are guided by the principle of “sexual maximalism”: a woman, when approaching a man, must either agree to complete intimacy without a hitch, or categorically refuse it, remaining unshakable under any onslaught. This male principle is based on six canons:

Implies the category of sincerely inaccessible women. It is difficult to breed them for one-time or frivolous sex. If they are given to a man, then not for the sake of money, status, patronage, etc., but solely for love or emotional affection. Men respect such women and are ready to do things for them.

Implies the category of easily accessible women. Such women are sold - literally or figuratively. It is easy to bring them to bed relations with the help of gifts, expensive courtship, but even if not expensive, they must still be kept within the norms established in the woman's inner circle. In other words, spend money, run, earn yourself sex.

All women, to one degree or another, belong to one of the above categories.

It implies a situation when a woman suddenly changes one categorical approach and principle to another. A man has a suspicion that she either hides her true nature under the guise of decency or dishonesty, or plays a role in order to fool a man (to fall in love, use, play).

It implies a situation where a woman tends to change her views on accessibility in sex in the event of an extreme degree of love, a critical life situation, or after experienced stress. But more often than not, the stabilization of the situation returns it to its former views.

There can be no other situations.

It is through these tough black and white filters that most men look at sexual relationships. Of course, such an interpretation can hardly claim to be the ultimate truth, but it is quite right to be. For women, the understanding of such male logic can greatly facilitate the task of fulfilling an impossible mission: to surrender with pleasure, remaining impregnable. Exaggerated, but somehow men imagine an ideal relationship.

Male Tests for Female Availability

Testing women "for strength", men act by calculating and excluding those who are easily accessible. Reconnaissance in combat is carried out by tough and sometimes cruel tests. Sexual "blackmail" can develop according to several scenarios-variants.

Hidden "blackmail"

If the offer of sex was gently or sharply (but categorically) rejected (the girl stopped unambiguous harassment, refused to go home at night looking at a cup of coffee, go to the sauna, etc.), the man pretends to understand and perceive this as normal. He decorously (or at least restrainedly) takes the girl home, politely says goodbye and ... disappears from her life for a period of a week to a month. At this time, he observes the reaction of a new acquaintance and draws conclusions. His further actions depend on her behavior:

Option 1: The girl calls, looking for a meeting, making excuses. If the “prey” is active in resuming contact, expresses his regrets about the misunderstanding that has arisen (for example, she is not against sex, but she had a bad mood, a full moon, “critical days”, etc.), then she has matured, you can take. What to do next, the man knows. He won this battle, and the girl lost the war if her plans included a long-term relationship. It is unlikely that she will be satisfied with the status of "alternate airfield". Namely, it goes to women who do not know how to excite and maintain the hunting instinct in men.

Option 2. The girl does not call, does not seek a meeting, does not make excuses. If she hooked a man, his patience will not be enough for a long time. He himself will appear to look into the eyes - did you cry, suffer, wait? If he does not see pain, he respects him, but, most likely, he will make a new attempt at a sexual assault. If this time the “bastille” turns out to be persistent, the man’s self-esteem will also rise, since he got a “tough nut”, and this is already interesting. With such a woman you want not only sex.

Of course, for a woman, in any case, the second option is more profitable. If a man disappears after unsuccessful attempts to persuade him to have sex, is it worth running after him, even if he is handsome, a successful businessman, or some other kind of “macho”? No. Having received his own, sooner or later he will leave to look for the one for which he himself will run, and which tests will begin to arrange on him. Well, if a man, having pacified his sexual ardor, coped with the wounded male pride and returned with a proposal to build honest relationships, we can assume that he passed the female reliability test.

Remember what your cave ancestor did most of his life. That's right, he hunted a mammoth with the tribe. Or, on a self-employment basis, he tracked down some antediluvian porcupine in order to provide a meal for a family waiting in his native cave. That is, your ancestor moved almost continuously. If you don't move fast enough, you may end up without dinner. And even to please some saber-toothed predator for dinner.

A modern man mostly hunts computer mammoths, which does not require much physical activity. He gets to work by car, he doesn’t walk from work either. And the appetite, like all other life support mechanisms, is no different from the cave ones. Therefore, eating in the kitchen a beautifully packaged porcupine bought in a ready-made form, a modern man receives free calories that are not provided with energy costs. And then he asks: why do guys have a growing belly?

What happens to us, men, hunters of pixel mammoths and consumers of store porcupines? Nature has nothing superfluous. If the muscles are not in demand, they lose their tone. As a result, the contents of our abdomen, under the influence of internal pressure, begin to protrude the anterior abdominal wall. And - goodbye to the cherished press "cubes" and last year's youthful jeans. Now you have to choose trousers not by size and style, but by the possibility of fastening them on the stomach. More precisely, under the stomach, because not a single pair of trousers will hold on to it anyway.

The reason for the proud protrusion of the abdomen forward is weakness of the rectus abdominis muscle. The lack of tone of the oblique muscles of the abdomen is to blame for the spread of the once youthful waist to the sides. This is excluding the actual growth of the fat layer, which takes place not only on the anterior abdominal wall, but also on the intestinal loops, in the so-called omentum. By the way, this internal fat shows particular persistence when trying to get rid of it. Your body will fight for its own omentum, like an Olympic champion for victory. For I am sure that the deposited fat is necessary to ensure its vital functions. And he accumulates this fat not to annoy you, but for a rainy day. Let's remember how often the cave ancestor had successful hunts? Didn't it happen that the fatty layer provided the energy exchange of the misguided hunter, giving him strength for further searches for food? There is nothing unnecessary in nature. It's all about how we manage the opportunities given to us by nature.

Why does the lower abdomen grow?

But why does the lower abdomen grow? For the same insufficiency of the oblique muscles of the abdominal wall. But not only. Here we smoothly move on to internal affairs, that is, to exchange violations.

Fat deposits in the lower abdomen, fat depot. Where did it come from? From there, it was synthesized from undeveloped extra calories. Do you want to get rid of? Endocrinology help. The fact is that the most important male hormone - testosterone, among its other functions, is also responsible for lipid metabolism in the body of a man. The age-related decrease in testosterone production is a physiological phenomenon, that is, it occurs naturally. But - smoothly. We have a shop porcupine and a minimum of movements. And from an inconspicuous fat layer, characteristic of every organism, we grow a full-fledged "beer" belly. Ask - what does endocrinology have to do with it? With everything, though. An increase in the number of fat cells contributes to an increase in the production of the testosterone antagonist hormone - leptin. As a result, the process of reducing testosterone production is faster than it should be. And accordingly, the production of leptin increases. And the growth of fat depots. It's just some kind of Fibonacci sequence.

This very male “Fibonacci sequence” affects all male health, both reproductive and general. Hence the inexplicable lethargy, increased fatigue, susceptibility to disease and reduced stress resistance.

If the state of health is still satisfying, then in terms of metabolism it is far from being so safe. And the process continues to gain momentum.

But back to beer. Why does beer make my belly grow? Everything is simple here - an abnormally elongated stomach (rarely anyone drinks beer in one bottle), extractivity, which increases appetite and the presence of analogs of female sex hormones that stimulate fat formation. Recently, attempts have been made to rehabilitate beer. I believe that at the suggestion of beer companies that are not interested in anti-advertising. But you and I are interested in our own health, and not in other people's profits. Isn't it better to think about yourself seriously before it's too late?

Or is this better?

Questions about men are sometimes easier to answer by imagining yourself as a man, which I propose to do now ...

Girls, questions about men are sometimes easier to answer by imagining yourself as a man, which I propose to do now.

We are all interested in what she is - the one that catches, the thief of men's hearts, who beckons to herself with her mere presence ... Now we are not talking about smoothness, softness, goodness and female strength in the sense of the energy that we accumulate in the lower abdomen. We are talking about a woman whose behavior pattern is very different from the idea of ​​\u200b\u200b"goodness". And in this she is impressively good!

But before drawing conclusions about her, let's look at everything through the eyes of a man.

So imagine yourself as a man. You are accustomed to female attention and unmistakably feel when female sexuality is based on self-confidence, and when - on dependence. And for most of the women you meet in life, the whole line of behavior stems from addiction.

And you already know what to do, to say, to feed her addiction, to strengthen it, so that this woman becomes yours very quickly.

And then she appears, who does not say a word “how to behave or speak with her, etc.”, which is fine even without you.

“Am I so inconspicuous? Am I losing my temper?” you think. Against its background, all the others “fell” even more in your eyes.

And she is self-sufficient, self-willed, does what she wants. And if she looks at you, it is only because she herself so wanted to, and you have absolutely nothing to do with all your efforts in this direction. It is unpredictable, it does not "roll" all your usual chips. Although she is correct, feminine, delicate, she seems to frankly do not care about your feelings, because she is in the first place. How to surprise this? How to draw attention to yourself? How to take possession of it? The brain is still working hard on this task.

She is like the wind: now she is near, then completely spontaneously disappears for several days, does not pick up the phone and does not consider it necessary to report.

She doesn't feel dependent on you, she's not afraid of being abandoned, she just doesn't care! And this is a discovery for you that this is even possible. You have to think with her what you are talking about, because at any moment she can leave forever. And if she leaves, you will understand that she did not leave for someone, but specifically left you.

She considers herself a gift of fate, she seems to be very proud of herself, and she will not “eat” even one disrespectful word, unlike many women who will endure even more that you were with them, who shower you with their attention.

She does not give anything until she gets what she needs and how much she needs (talking about attention, care, respect, etc.). She calculates everything and thinks soberly. She is not afraid to be without a man. Always makes a choice in favor of his own dignity. She does not say how to do and what. She literally shows her indifference, and why should she be indifferent: have you already done something for her?! And you suddenly begin to understand that you didn’t do anything, but you should. She never gives more than she receives. She is not going to eat from your hands until you win her, and you begin to understand this too. She is on her own.

She asks riddles all the time: as soon as she doesn’t like something, she disappears, and you have to look for the reason in yourself - what you did wrong. She doesn't try to please you. She is completely disobedient. She does not talk about feelings and relationships. It’s as if she never gets angry at all, you can’t manage to bring her to a negative attitude towards herself, as if she doesn’t care.

She does not sacrifice anything for the sake of a man, puts the satisfaction of her needs in the first place. She never gives up her own interests. She will not cancel her plans because of you.

She does not compete with other women - she is so confident in herself. She does not hang on to you and does not try to tie you to herself in any way, and she does not demand anything - what a rarity! She speaks to you in the only language that men understand - the language of actions.

She always puts her own dignity above everything else and will not tolerate disrespect for herself.

It doesn't restrict you in any way. There is so much space next to her that, it would seem, you are always free, and you can leave at any moment, but you don’t want something from her ...

Stylist, style coach

Today I will talk about 10 types of men who do not make the best impression. For a long time, many aspired to these ideals, but today such a correspondence for a man is a fashionable blunder, not a hit.

1. Lumbersexual

A beard is the main decoration of a man, but not everyone looks good. If nature has not endowed you with dense and beautiful facial hair, it is better to refuse it altogether. A frizzy beard repels rather than adds masculinity. A beard that is too long often looks old-fashioned - a trend that came into fashion 10 years ago is living out its day.

Popular

Many bearded men love the undercut haircut. An overgrown undercut is the worst thing you can imagine, especially if you are trying to hide a bald head under a short ponytail.

2. Ragged

Ripped jeans are popular among fashion bloggers because they look good in photos. In life, they do not add attractiveness to guys. Unlike the female body, the male nude does not evoke such strong sexual desire. Agree, it is rare for a girl to turn on her imagination, looking at a hairy knee.

3. Graduate

We are talking about a guy who used to dress his mother, and now he does it on his own. This one wears smart things (bright shirts, shiny suits, a bow tie) not for the occasion or chooses something in the style of grandfather's wardrobe. Both look ridiculous and often cheap.

4. Mod

The most dangerous category for a modern man. Alas, in domestic realities, one should not transfer bright fashion trends from the catwalk to real life, even if he likes them. The abundance of satin, fur, bright prints, colored leather, spectacular hats and other frilly accessories - all this will not make a man more attractive in the eyes of women (however, depending on which ones).

5. Slimming

This character is closely related to the previous category. The popular oversize trend is also present in men's fashion, but if a man has a delicate physique, things in several sizes immediately turn him into a teenager.

6. Resting

Another consequence of the influx of fashion trends. Shirts with tropical prints, bohemian pajamas and bathrobes, slip-ons with fur - too relaxed looks do not contribute to the disclosure of male charisma. On young guys, such things look simply ridiculous, and on men over 30 they give the impression that they really have a rest. Men also do not paint large prints.

7. Aging

This is a paragraph about men who pay too much attention to their appearance. Skin, hair and eyebrow care should not become manic. This usually happens to men aged 35-40 years. In an attempt to regain youth, they begin to take care of themselves too actively. Unnaturally plucked eyebrows, a toned face and unsuccessfully painted over gray hair instantly spoil the impression of a man. Alas, the desire to hide flaws is always more striking than the flaws themselves.

8. Master of Sports in BDSM

Leather is a classic, but you need to be very careful with it. Even elements such as leather sleeves and a collar are not for everyone. The same applies to the "leather jacket". It looks good "dramatic" and "classic" types, sometimes "natural". In most cases, leather things look fashionable, but not manly. And it is important not to overdo it with them. In fact, only accessories should be leather in a man’s wardrobe, and even then not always.

Intelligence

Women appreciate intelligence in men. By the way, in the presence of an outstanding mind and intellect, physical data fade into the background. Therefore, students often seriously fall in love with their teachers, and schoolgirls with teachers of complex subjects, for example, physics or mathematics. Some sexologists believe that male intelligence makes women sexually attracted. Not to mention that women are interested in a smart man (after all, they are so talkative, and you can talk with smart men on almost any topic).

Speech

Outwardly, intellect is manifested by the manner of speaking, i.e. speech. Mental limitations often affect the vocabulary, pronunciation, use of hackneyed expressions and common truths. The wretchedness of thought breeds primitive speech. "Stupid thoughts come to everyone's mind, but only a fool voices them." - So say many smart representatives of the stronger sex. Everyone should know that “a woman loves with her ears”, and it is speech that can attract them, or maybe repel them. Speech develops by studying, reading, communicating with smart people and working on oneself. A well-read person is not only literate, but also interesting in conversation.

Literacy

Women are more diligent than men, and therefore they are, on average, more literate than men. A literate person feels a psychological advantage, so it is better not to show illiteracy. It manifests itself both in writing and in oral speech, but above all in the declension of numerals.

Ability to get your way

Women love purposeful, persistent, able to achieve their men. If a man seeks a woman, then this is also pleasant for her, because it emphasizes her value and demonstrates the masculine character.

prosperity

Women don't like losers. It `s naturally. The responsibility for the continuation of the family hangs on the woman, and she must be sure of her companion that he is able to feed both her and the children.

Human qualities

Nobility, generosity, the ability to understand others - these qualities are highly valued by women. Reliability is also valued. “Behind him, like behind a stone wall” is one of the best compliments to a man. If a man was able to show one of the above qualities, he is much more likely to succeed with a woman.

male beauty

Men's beauty is different from women's. Often referred to as "cute" men with good looks, thereby emphasizing the disapproving attitude, although some people like it.

What repels a woman

You will not have a chance to conquer at least one woman if:

1. your cheeks are covered with prickly bristles (to portray the unshaven fashionable now, a fair amount of talent is also needed);
2. you have dandruff and greasy hair;
3. you are a rough type with rough lips;
4. you have smoky teeth; in this case, doge “Orbit” with mint flavor will not help you;
5. you sweat a lot on your feet and like nylon socks;
6. your favorite drink is the one that relieves a hangover;
7. your bathroom has no mirror and poor lighting;
8. you think that a woman will be interested in your ordinary dreams;
9. you have rough hands and bitten uneven nails (tights are not cheap though).

But you can easily exclaim that “the best gift is myself” if:

1. you have no problems with shaving;
2. every day you wash your hair with a fragrant shampoo;
3. after eating, you brush your teeth or, not having such an opportunity, chew gum;
4. you start the morning with exercises and glasses of milk (kefir);
5. you pay a lot of attention to your face;
6. on your hands - soft well-groomed skin.

The following are the components of appearance that will make a good impression on a woman:

Posture

The figure is the first thing a woman pays attention to. Most of the men are stooped and hunched. And we will be proud! Good posture is a straight back, raised chest, head and shoulder position. The head should be raised, the chin slightly pulled back. And do not forget to turn your shoulders, otherwise you will get the impression of cowardice and a weak character.

Sight

It affects people more than posture. The eyes are the mirror of the soul. The look should be direct and open, and directed to the interlocutor in the eyes or in the bridge of the nose. A narrowed look shows your attentiveness, inquisitiveness. Direct - will and perseverance. A sidelong glance creates the impression of some kind of hostility and envy, and a shifty look - a shy, worried, insecure man. Wide-open eyes speak of surprise, naivety. Do not forget Bismarck's words: "Stupidity is a gift of God, but it should not be abused."

Articulation

Articulation is the work of the organs of speech (lips, tongue, vocal cords) when pronouncing sounds. Articulation can also say a lot about a man. Strongly compressed lips - about will, perseverance, internal tension; relaxed - about complacency, emancipation. It is believed that people with thin lips are evil, treacherous, and those with thick and plump lips are soft and kind.

Smile

First of all, a smile attracts attention. This is an indicator of human feelings, an indicator of an internal state, good mood and a predisposition to good communication. People are drawn to such a person. But here you need to know a sense of proportion, since a constant smile creates the impression of frivolity.

movements

Temperament, character, state of health, physical development, mental and strong-willed mood are visible in the movements. Movements should correspond to life situations. The gait should be even and speak of a balanced character of a person, his self-confidence. A swift gait speaks of purposefulness. Mining - about fussiness and uncertainty. A confident, slightly lazy lion's gait is suitable for broad-boned, heavy men, an aggressive, sweeping gait of a tiger for medium-sized men, and a swift gait, elastic and graceful movements of a jaguar for thin men.

All this work on yourself may seem laborious. But she will help you meet women without much work on your part. Dare!