The main values ​​in human life. How to determine your life values

Did you know that 99 of the 100 richest Russians according to Forbes magazine have children?? I will tell you more about this below.

Are you satisfied with your job, family relationships, health, internal state? There are various problems that happen in every person's life, but many difficulties can be avoided if you act in accordance with the right values ​​in life.

Now I will talk about 8 life values ​​​​and how their satisfaction affects the level of happiness.

8 Life Values

1. Spiritual development. This is your moral state and actions, understanding of life values.

2. Family, loved ones. Your relationship with your soulmate, relatives, friends.

3. Health, sports. Your well-being. Regularity in general examinations can also be attributed to this section, since many diseases can be asymptomatic until the very last stage.

4. Financial situation. Satisfaction with financial position.

5. Career. Career and finances are separated because for many, self-realization in a career is more important than income, for some it is the other way around.

6. Rest, emotions.

7. Self-development.

8. Environment. People you interact with frequently, at work and in other public places.

If you want, you can supplement with your other life values.

Priorities in life values

The maximum efficiency and level of experienced happiness is achieved under 2 conditions:

Your values ​​in life are correct;

You are as close as possible to the uniform satisfaction of all life values.

Now let's analyze these 2 conditions a little and start with the first: Correct life values. Each life value has its own priority.

The main life value is spiritual development, i.e. your moral state. The importance lies in the fact that negative actions have a bad effect on all areas of life: health, recreation, finances, etc. The reason is that bad deeds create conflict with yourself, or rather, with your conscience. Think back to how you felt after the fight. Irritability, headache, stress, etc. are the result of any negative emotions.

All bad deeds are in conflict with your conscience, as a result, stress hormones are produced., which lower immunity, worsen your mood, etc. If, from a moral point of view, you do good deeds, then happiness hormones are produced that strengthen the body's strength and improve mood, which, in turn, affects all other areas of life.

Let's designate the main vital value from above.

The second most important value is family. Problems in the family, as well as in the value of "spiritual development" strongly affect all areas of life, the principle is about the same.

3rd most important value: health, which also affects everything else. Priorities for other values ​​may vary depending on your personality type.

Supporting facts from forbes about success

Many may have doubts about the above priorities, so I will give the facts. Everyone knows Forbes magazine, which annually publishes lists of the richest people in the world. In one of the magazines, I found the following interesting fact: In the list of the 100 richest Russians according to forbes, I counted only 9 divorced men, 1 unmarried, the rest are all married. But the most interesting thing is that 99 out of 100 have children, even those who are divorced, adopted or their own. At the same time, the average data for all married men in Russia is much lower, you yourself understand this.

It turns out that the most successful men are married and who have children. This is a fact of statistics.

How do you like this arrangement? It seems to be the opposite, according to the logic of a modern person, the more you work to achieve success, the less time you have for everything else. Why is it so difficult for single men and women to succeed? Why do they have to work harder and achieve less?

So, according to the statistics in marriage, you are more likely to realize your desires. But let's try to understand why this happens, because a family and children require time, care, and effort!

We are so arranged that when good deeds are released into the blood hormones of joy (dopamine, serotonin, etc.). Remember how you felt when you provided invaluable help to another person. You can look at the faces of people who work in charitable foundations, even from photographs it immediately becomes clear that they feel much happier than others.

Taking care of others, in particular, family, children, greatly reduces susceptibility to stress, because our brain cannot think about several situations at once, it works sequentially. What does this mean? And then, when we want to help someone, positive thoughts of help do not allow negative emotions to develop. If there were no thoughts about how to help your neighbor, then experiences and negative emotions would fill the void.

This is why after a divorce, so often people start drinking and fall into other harmful ailments, they just become more susceptible to negativity. And family people, on the contrary, are less proud, offended, sick, this happens because when a person takes care of someone, his morale improves.

That's why the family can help not only get the release of happy hormones: endorphins, but also reduce the production of stress hormones, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.

Success and morale

The foundation of success is your morale. Everyone understands that people avoid cooperation with proud, arrogant, evil people and, on the contrary, are drawn to interaction with calm, polite, kind people. Therefore, the most important value is spiritual development, which improves your morale and reduces negative actions. As a result, there is less conflict with conscience and less negative thoughts that negatively affect through the release of stress hormones.

I will share my experience, I go to an Orthodox church, regularly go to confession and receive communion. It helps to improve morale, remove negative thoughts and feel happier.

The family gives a person the opportunity for faster spiritual development, because caring for one's neighbor makes a person better, his moral condition improves, and his actions become correct. Therefore, family and relationships with loved ones are the 2nd most important life value.

Priorities allow you to make a more accurate analysis and help you better understand what needs to be done to change your life for the better. For example, satisfaction with financial position should not be higher than satisfaction with spiritual development. Or satisfaction with a career should not be higher than satisfaction with family relationships. That is, on the wheel of life, you need not only to tighten up your sagging needs, but also to ensure that lower priority life values ​​do not rise above higher priority ones.

Often people work where they do not like. And every day unloved work brings more and more disappointments and spoiled mood. Often the reason is not a bad job or even a bad employee, but that they do not fit together. If you approach the choice of work and lifestyle in accordance with your life values, then you will be more successful in any area.

How to evaluate life values

The criterion for success in life is the level of happiness experienced. Perhaps everyone wants to be happy. The more you satisfy your life values, the happier you will feel.. But in order to understand where to start, you need to know at what stage of satisfaction your current life values ​​are.

Now is the time to evaluate your life values. First, take a piece of paper and draw a circle, then divide it into 8 parts by drawing 4 lines through the center. Put zero in the center of the circle - this is your starting point. Divide each of the 8 axes into 10 parts, grading with risks. There will be zero in the center of the circle, and 10 along the edges at the intersection of the lines with the circle.

Label each intersection of the line with the circle described above with 8 life values.

Ask yourself: Are you satisfied with the work you have done to improve your health, relationships with your family, etc. For each item, rate your level of satisfaction on a scale of 1 to 10 and tick on each axis.

It is important to add that the question should not be asked related to satisfaction in general, but to how you have worked on each area. What matters is not the end goal, but your desire and movement towards it.

I'll explain why: Life constantly limits us in some way and there are situations when the desired cannot be achieved, but you can achieve satisfaction from the work invested. For example, a person does not have a leg, of course, everyone would like to have full-fledged limbs, but so far this is impossible, so if such a person always indicates a low result on the health axis, this will demotivate him, because he wants, but cannot .

And if you put your movement towards a goal on the wheel of life, for example, a person without a leg trains every day to feel as natural as possible on an artificial leg and indicates high numbers on the health axis, then this will motivate him to further training. Therefore, 10 points on each axis is the value of the maximum result that you can achieve, and not someone else in this life situation.

As a result, you should get a figure similar to a circle. If this did not work out, then look at all the sagging areas of life. First of all, it is necessary to satisfy the most lagging vital values, because. it is always easier to saturate the base level than the higher one, i.e. to get a uniform circle. In addition, balance in life is extremely important for a person. Only a balanced life will bring happiness.

Now you know how much your life values ​​coincide with the real state of affairs and what needs to be changed in the first place.

You need to determine life values ​​regularly, draw a circle of life at least once a month, preferably once a week.

The figure to strive for is a circle. When you determine your life values ​​and the degree to which they are realized, it will be much easier to prioritize things, your life will become more balanced, you will feel happier.

P.S. If you have any difficulties or questions about the article you read, as well as on the topics: Psychology (bad habits, experiences, etc.), sales, business, time management, etc., ask me, I will try to help. Skype consultation is also possible.

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We rarely ask ourselves questions like “Why do we live”, “What is life value for us”, etc. Without talking about it, we, nevertheless, are guided by certain principles, we choose for ourselves the most important thing, if it is impossible to save everything. For example: “love”, “freedom” or “work” is more valuable to someone than “family”. If you don't have to choose between them, everything coexists peacefully. What if you need to make a choice? It will be done in favor of what is most important for a person, no matter how it may seem from the outside it is a wrong or thoughtless decision. Of course, it is possible that over time a person will blame himself for having once made the “wrong” choice. Only he always chooses in the present, and in this present there are already other values.
Are there such life values ​​that are equally important for people regardless of their age, gender and in which country of the world they live? Of course have. This is family, health, work. In addition, people name other values, such as: education, love, friendship, self-respect, career, power, money, sex…
It would be interesting to compare the values ​​of "fathers" and "children", because their difference can interfere with mutual understanding between generations.
What our teenagers choose, we learned from their answers 130 students of the 5th and 9th grades from school No. 3 in Konakovo. 45% of respondents put "a happy family" in 1st place among the other 17 life values. 85% of children included "family" in the top five most important values. The 2nd place was taken by “friendship” (58%). Although relationships with peers during adolescence play a major role, only 6% gave her an honorable first place. Indeed, the family continues to play a crucial role in the process of growing up a teenager. He needs wise mentoring from adults, but does not show this and rebels against his parents, striving for communication on an equal footing.

Not all, but only 54% of schoolchildren, consider "education" a life value. Among fifth-graders, only 45% share this opinion. An even smaller number of schoolchildren (only 18%) strive for high achievements in sports or the arts.
Some boys and girls line up the following series of values:
Education - work, career - money, wealth. Or even "cooler": work, career - money, wealth - fame, admiration and respect of others.
Among adolescents aged 10-11 and 15-16, there is an equally small number of those who begin to realize the “welfare of the state” as a value. “Science as knowledge of the new” occupies almost the very last places in the list of values ​​(from 9th to 17th). Only one young man considers "science" a priority value for himself, along with such as "power" and "success".
36% of teenagers choose such a value as "the happiness of loved ones."
The answers of adults (and they were interviewed 30 people) were very diverse. Almost all the values ​​listed in the questionnaire were named by them, with the exception of such a value as “food”. And for 13% of teenagers, food is worth talking about as a value. Actually, it has long been known that there is a hierarchy of needs, and the first place in this pyramid is occupied by physiological needs. These include food, clothing, sleep, rest. A person is able to think and strive to meet higher needs only when his primary (physiological) needs are satisfied. No wonder there is a saying: "An empty belly is deaf to learning."
For 13% of adults, housing is a similar primary need: their own apartment or house.
The main values ​​of the interviewed men and women aged 22 to 52 are “family” and “health”. In second place is "work". For 66% of respondents, the category “happiness of close people” is very significant. The number of choices in favor of "love" and "friendship" is an order of magnitude lower. 26% of people name them as important life values. The rating for education is not very high. Only 20% of adults consider education an important life value. Approximately the same number (20-25%) choose the "welfare of the state", striving for self-respect. For 15% of adults, the respect of others is necessary. No more than 5% aspires to a career, power. The attitude to money as a kind of life value was revealed in 20% of adolescents and 10% of adults.
It turns out that the values ​​of "fathers" and "children" are very similar, although in each case this is far from being the case. And how exactly, you can discuss after reading this material. I wish you happy discoveries.

Life values ​​are categories of moral and material aspects that are leading in the choice of life strategy, ways of achieving and orientation in the semantic space. In many ways, it is values ​​that determine a person’s ability to make decisions, and also incline his activity in a certain direction.

The presence of stress factors, problematic situations and other troubles can force a person to change their positions or begin to make efforts to defend their point of view. It can be said that all the difficulties encountered on the way test a person for strength in their own convictions, make it possible to prove that the chosen categories represent precisely the life values ​​​​of a person, and not momentary needs.

What it is

The life values ​​of a person are fate-transforming and fate-realizing factors and directly affect the adoption of all life decisions. They affect all spheres of life, including the highest purpose of the personality and soul, relationships with close and superficially familiar people, and the attitude to material wealth.

The diversity of the space of life values ​​is unique to the same extent that each individual is unique. It is the interweaving of the importance of attitudes towards a particular category that allows us to see an individual pattern of semantic and value space. Most people use momentary impulses to build a life concept, without a deep awareness of their priorities, which work on a subconscious level.

Frequent painful reflections, the inability to make a choice, to do the right thing, or subsequent reproaches of oneself for a mistake made are the usual consequences of the absence of a clear position. If you increase the level of awareness, understand thoroughly your gradation of values, then you can avoid a significant amount of doubt and the difficulty of choosing.

The road is made easier by the fact that the path has already been chosen, even if for the sake of a long-term perspective, temporary comforts have to be sacrificed. So, a person who puts the family in the first place will not hesitate for a long time how to respond to the proposal of the authorities about a six-month business trip to another country, and who does not understand what is a priority for him in the context of his whole life, he may not decide on drastic changes or make error.

The determination of the most significant values ​​is influenced by many factors, both the internal structure of the human psyche and external events in the surrounding space. At first, the foundation is laid by the characteristics of the individual and the system of education - many values ​​have a biological basis (the need for an active or passive lifestyle, the number of contacts, medical support), and are also internalized from the immediate environment at a very early age.

As they grow older, the core values ​​form the life experience gained, personal emotional experiences from some situations that add up the general attitude to life. As a result, a peculiar construction appears, separating important things and events from minor ones.

When a person builds his life based on deep true values, he feels filled with energy and happy. The reverse law also operates - the more life moves away from internal needs, the less happiness it has, and dissatisfaction begins to prevail in the emotional background of the individual. It is necessary to decide on your primary priorities, while not forgetting that the most harmonious life is in which all spheres are developed. Even if a person determines for himself the importance of two or three values, it is necessary to maintain all the others at the proper level in order to avoid imbalance and disharmony of the personality.

Basic values ​​of human life

Basic values ​​are understood as categories of universal human values ​​that are of undeniable importance for all people, on a planetary scale and on an individual level. What is important is the value of one's own life, love for any of its manifestations. From this follows care for physical and spiritual health, the ability to prioritize and, first of all, ensure one's survival. In many ways, this most important item is regulated, but only at the physical level, psychological sacrifice is increasingly manifested among people and adversely affects the life and state of the psyche.

As a social being, it is human nature to value relationships highly, as well as their quality. The need to be accepted and appreciated contributes to survival and better fulfillment in the living space. Next after the importance of social relationships, or instead of them, we can consider the value of family relationships, including the parental family and building one's own.

Intimate relationships, romantic manifestations can also be attributed to this item. Developing this category, the value of love for children and the need for their presence appear. Here, several additional points can be realized at once, for example, the realization of one's social function, purpose, ability to transfer knowledge, and so on.

The importance of native places, those where a person was born, grew up, spent most of his life, can border on patriotism. In the global sense, the place of our birth and upbringing directly forms the personality - it is there that you can feel accepted and understood. At home and among people with the same mentality, it is easier to adapt and breathe easier, there is an opportunity to show all your abilities brighter and more multifaceted. Many cultures have preserved the traditions of maintaining contact with their native land, from an intuitive understanding of the importance of the amount of energy received by a person from the familiar space.

Professional and social activities, the realization of oneself as a specialist or the achievement of new results in one's hobbies is becoming an almost necessary factor in the modern world. This touches upon, which will come without material support and the desire for development and recognition, as the main driving mechanisms of human activity. Such strong factors eventually force many to prioritize work, resulting in a serious bias in one direction.

Inseparable from the value of work is the value of rest, which allows you to restore resources, switch. During the rest, a person can discover a new vision of the past situation, feel the taste of life, realize impractical, but spiritually significant desires. All this eventually allows you to harmonize the rest of your life.

Real life examples

To understand more clearly how values ​​manifest themselves, it makes sense to consider a few examples of each of them. So the value of family and relationships is manifested by care, the ability to come to help and provide it even when it is not directly asked for. A person who allocates time to all the important people in his life clearly appreciates this category. This also includes the ability to always respectfully address people, to be responsive, tolerant and tolerant. The absence of these manifestations can soon destroy any relationship and the person is left alone. Of course, he can sacrifice this, directing his energy not to an attentive attitude towards others, but to the development of his own career or skills, but then completely different ideals are written in the priorities of a person.

When a person's main value is material well-being, this is manifested in constant self-development in their professional field, the search for new opportunities and positions.
A prime example is skipping a family dinner or dinner together because of an important meeting or the need to finish overtime. In the pursuit of financial wealth, people may take on extra jobs, freelance outside of their core business, sacrifice work relationships by substituting employees to take a privileged position.

When health is shaken, it is this category that comes to the fore among the entire list of values, because otherwise a person cannot function normally, and perhaps even say goodbye to life. In many situations, the need to take care of the physical condition arises precisely against the backdrop of problems, but there are people who have set this value as one of the highest for themselves, striving to maintain constant good health. This is manifested in regular examinations, adherence to a suitable diet and exercise, the passage of periodic rehabilitation and restorative procedures.

The value of self-development and spirituality may seem like a choice instead of a pilgrimage beach or an esoteric festival, psychological training is preferred instead of new shoes. Everything that is important for a person requires time and attention, therefore only awareness will help to plan time in such a way that other areas of life do not suffer.

Every person has values ​​in life. They are formed in childhood, and in adulthood they influence the actions of people, their decisions, personal choices. Values ​​are a reflection of the essence, a driving force that affects the worldview and the formation of personality. What exactly are the values ​​of life and how to choose them for yourself?

Where do life values ​​come from?

Although human values ​​are a stable structure, they change under the influence of external circumstances and internal experiences. Of fundamental importance are those values ​​that are laid down in childhood. However, they do not appear instantly, they are formed over the course of life. The older a person becomes, the more stable values ​​distinguish him. For some, money, fame, power, and luxury items are essential in life. Others consider spiritual self-improvement, creative development, health, family and children important.

The formation of life values ​​is influenced by:

upbringing and family;
friends;
classmates;
team at work;
experienced traumas and losses;
economic situation in the country.

Basic values ​​of human life

Although each person is individual, there are values ​​that unite all people:

It has nothing to do with selfishness. Such love helps to achieve happiness in life and self-improvement.
Near. The manifestation of this value lies in the respect of each person, his opinion and position in life.
Family. - the highest value for most people.
Husband or spouse. Emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy with a loved one comes first for some.
Love for children.
motherland. The place where a person was born affects the mentality and attitude to life.
Work. There are people who seek to dissolve in activities, they are ready to take on any assignment at work to achieve the common good.
Friends. and self-expression in it are of no small importance for any person.
Rest. This sphere of life allows a person to concentrate on his feelings, relax and unwind from the endless bustle.
public mission- activity. Altruists primarily seek to do something for the good of society. Satisfying your needs and desires is already in second place.

It cannot be said that each person singles out for himself one universal human value and lives by it. The listed areas are harmoniously intertwined, we just mark a few for ourselves and put them in first place in life.

Life values ​​are a complex structure that is reflected in the formulation and method of achievement. As a result, a person foresees unpleasant situations and possible failures.

List of possible human life values

In addition to basic life values, each person can have individual, sometimes extraordinary values. Below is only a partial list of possible human values, because it can be continued indefinitely.

Optimism. “The pessimist sees difficulties at every opportunity; An optimist sees opportunities in every difficulty. Such a character trait can undoubtedly be considered a value and rejoice at the presence of optimism in your life: with it, life becomes brighter and fuller.
Patience. "Patience and a little effort". The presence of patience, especially among the modern generation, is definitely worth considering as its value. Only with patience can you. This is about your personal benefits. But your friends and partners will surely appreciate this quality.
Honesty. "Honesty is the most precious thing." It is important to be honest not only with others, but also with yourself. If for you this value is on a par with the basic ones, you are probably a happy person: paradoxically, but honest people have an easier life than those who like to lie.
Discipline. "Business before pleasure". Most people are extremely skeptical about this value, because discipline is, in their opinion, equal to restrictions, lack of freedom. And only over the years, many people come to the conclusion that if you are a disciplined person, this does not mean that you somehow limit yourself, you rather find the path to freedom and happiness with the help of this character trait.

Life Value Examples

Asking the question: “What is valuable to me?”, Many find themselves in a dead end. However, it is very important to give yourself an unambiguous answer so that when a new situation arises for yourself, be true to your values.

Life values ​​are not related to the opinions of others and the recognition of you as a person, thanks to the heights you have achieved.

The following sequence of actions helps in determining your values:

Stay on your own. To understand what is important to you in life and what is of secondary importance, it is recommended to clear the space of extraneous influence. Engage in the study of your personality in complete solitude, without the influence of external factors.
Recall important events in your life. It does not have to be only positive situations, reflect on the negative ones as well. Write down the main experiences on a piece of paper, think about what impressed you and what upset you, and without which you cannot imagine your life.
Explore Human Values because personal needs and views follow from them. Keep track of the relationship between the resulting list and everyday life. Some of the items listed are only a desire, not an established value in life.
Watch yourself. Set aside at least one day in which you would explore yourself, behavior, choices and motives for actions. The decisions we make on a daily basis are an indicator of a person's personal choice and values.
If the list of values ​​is too long, it will have to be shortened.. There should be 3 maximum 4 values. The rest is just additions and resulting decisions in life.

Conclusion

Some values ​​that are simultaneously important to a person may conflict. After looking at the compiled list, decide what does not fit together. This is what causes creativity, which is in disharmony with itself. It is important to remember about balance and the impact of our values ​​on the lives of others.

Each person is different, so values ​​differ depending on the nature and established guidelines in a person’s life. Although not every person has a tendency to reflect and explore oneself, it is still worth stopping for a moment and thinking about what is valuable to me. Otherwise, you will be a driven person, without your own core. Under new circumstances, you will immediately lose yourself and your personality!