How to keep a long distance relationship? Love at a distance Passion at a distance to a man
Starting with the publications of Werner Heisenberg and Erwin Schrödinger in 1925-1926, in just ten years, quantum mechanics has become the generally accepted basis for understanding the phenomena of the micro- and macrocosm in a very wide range of areas - from nuclear physics to the theory of crystals. The theory moved so confidently from success to success that almost all physicists began to accept it as the ultimate truth.
But there were also those who disagreed. Albert Einstein did not like the fundamentally probabilistic character in quantum mechanics, the uncertainty relation and the impossibility of simultaneously determining the coordinates and velocities of particles, the lack of clarity in solving the problem of quantum mechanical measurements. Most of all, Einstein was annoyed by the incompatibility of his own ideas about physical reality with Niels Bohr's "Copenhagen" interpretation of quantum mechanics. According to Bohr, the state of any quantum system cannot be considered without regard to the apparatus with which information about its behavior is obtained. The theory is capable of predicting the probabilities of certain outcomes of measurements of quantum mechanical objects, but it can say absolutely nothing about what the values of the measured quantities “really” are. The state of the "unmeasured" system is not only unknown, it is not defined at all, and therefore it makes no sense to talk about it.
Einstein was not satisfied with such logic, he tried to refute it and invented imaginary experiments that Bohr successfully interpreted in his favor. However, Einstein did not back down. In 1935, he published a description of another thought experiment, which, according to his calculations, irrefutably proved the flaws of quantum theory. This model was the subject of long discussions between Einstein and his assistant Nathan Rosen and colleague Boris Podolsky. The article, actually written by Podolsky, appeared in the journal Physical Review with the signatures of all three. This work, cited as EPR, paved the way for the concept of quantum entanglement. Today it is considered to be one of the most profound studies of theoretical physics of the 20th century.
Who needs it?
The study of the phenomenon of quantum entanglement has many practical applications. A system of entangled particles, no matter how much it is spread over space, is always a single whole. Therefore, such systems are a gold mine for information technology. Although they do not allow the transmission of signals at superluminal speed (this SRT prohibition remains inviolable), they can be used to copy the state of quantum objects at any distance (this is called quantum teleportation) and transmit messages completely protected from interception (quantum cryptography). The phenomenon of entanglement opens the way to the creation of quantum computers. “Each elementary cell of a classical computer exists by itself in one of two logical states that encode zero and one.
And in a quantum computer, the state of a cell is a superposition, a mixture of two basic states, zero and one. Such a cell - a qubit - can be any quantum system with two possible states, say, an electron with its two spin orientations, - Mark Dykman, professor of physics at the University of Michigan, told Popular Mechanics. - Qubits can be connected to each other in different ways, thus creating a lot of entangled states. For a bound system of two qubits, there are already four possible states, three - eight, four - sixteen, and so on. So as the number of qubits increases, the number of computer states increases exponentially. Therefore, a quantum computer, in principle, will allow solving problems that will never be available to its classical predecessors. Entangled states are extremely delicate, and experimental physicists have encountered this for a long time. For a quantum computer to work, you must first create an entangled state of many qubits and then change it during the calculation process. Therefore, for the practical manufacture of a quantum computer, it is necessary that entangled, coherent qubits live long enough and that they can be reliably controlled. This is one of the main physical and technical problems of creating quantum computers. It's very difficult... and extremely interesting."
Starting with the publications of Werner Heisenberg and Erwin Schrödinger in 1925-1926, in just ten years, quantum mechanics has become the generally accepted basis for understanding the phenomena of the micro- and macrocosm in a very wide range of fields - from nuclear physics to the theory of crystals. The theory moved so confidently from success to success that almost all physicists began to accept it as the ultimate truth.
But there were also those who disagreed. Albert Einstein did not like the fundamentally probabilistic character in quantum mechanics, the uncertainty relation and the impossibility of simultaneously determining the coordinates and velocities of particles, the lack of clarity in solving the problem of quantum mechanical measurements. Most of all, Einstein was annoyed by the incompatibility of his own ideas about physical reality with Niels Bohr's "Copenhagen" interpretation of quantum mechanics. According to Bohr, the state of any quantum system cannot be considered irrespective of the apparatus with which information about its behavior is obtained. The theory is capable of predicting the probabilities of certain outcomes of measurements of quantum mechanical objects, but it can say absolutely nothing about what the values of the measured quantities “really” are. The state of the "unmeasured" system is not only unknown, it is not defined at all, and therefore it makes no sense to talk about it.
Einstein was not satisfied with such logic, he tried to refute it and invented imaginary experiments that Bohr successfully interpreted in his favor. However, Einstein did not back down. In 1935, he published a description of another thought experiment, which, according to his calculations, irrefutably proved the flaws of quantum theory. This model was the subject of long discussions between Einstein and his assistant Nathan Rosen and colleague Boris Podolsky. The article, actually written by Podolsky, appeared in the journal Physical Review with the signatures of all three. This work, cited as EPR, paved the way for the concept of quantum entanglement. Today it is considered to be one of the most profound studies of theoretical physics of the 20th century.
EPR mystery
The authors (EPR) proceeded from two self-evident premises. First, any attribute of a physical system that can be predicted with 100% probability without perturbing that system during measurements is, by definition, an element of physical reality. Second, a complete description of the system must include information about all such elements (associated with that particular system). Suppose we have made a pair of identical particles A and B, which start moving in exactly opposite directions with equal momenta and, therefore, velocities. The uncertainty principle does not allow you to accurately measure the position and momentum of each particle at the same time, but this is not required. Let the quantum twins move away from each other, and then determine the coordinates of particle A, which ideally can be done with zero error. We immediately receive reliable information on where particle B was located at the same moment. Our equipment interacted exclusively with A, and the state of its sister remained unperturbed. Therefore, the position of particle B should be considered as an element of physical reality.
Instead of finding out the coordinates of particle A, we can measure its momentum, again with perfect accuracy. Since the total momentum of the pair is zero, we automatically find out the momentum of particle B, without touching it in any way. Consequently, this quantity is also an element of physical reality. However, the equations of quantum mechanics make it possible to calculate the position and momentum of a particle only approximately. And if this is so, the EPR concludes, then the quantum mechanical description of reality is not complete. Q.E.D.
Bohm's version
In the early 1950s, the American physicist David Bohm formulated a new version of the EPR experiment that simplified mathematical analysis. He considered a pair of identical half-spin quantum particles, made so that their total spin is zero (say, electrons). After the collapse, they will begin to move in different directions. Let's put on their way magnetic detectors that measure the spin.
In an ideal model, electrons move through a slot pierced by parallel lines of force of a constant but inhomogeneous magnetic field (in reality, everything is somewhat more complicated). Due to its quantum nature, before the measurement, the spin has no definite orientation at all, and after it, it is oriented either in the direction of the field or against it.
Let one detector report that the spin of "his" electron is directed upwards. It can be argued that the spin of the second electron looks down. And experience confirms this. Let the second electron move towards a more distant detector with the same field orientation. The instrument will notice with some delay that the spin is down, as expected. Thus, we reliably predicted the spin of the second particle without affecting it in any way. According to the logic of the EPR, the direction of its spin is considered an element of physical reality.
What is the paradox? Let's assume that the detectors are oriented differently, say, from left to right. If the spin of one electron is to the right, we must conclude that the spin of the second is to the left. However, this element of physical reality is strange if it can be changed at one's own discretion!
But it's still half the trouble. Let's now install the near detector vertically, and the far detector horizontally. If the observer at the first detector sees that the spin is pointing up, he will assume that the spin of the partner electron is pointing down. However, the second instrument registers the horizontal value of the spin. When the experiment is repeated, the spin of the second electron in half the cases will look to the right, and in half - to the left. The second observer will be entitled to conclude that the spin of the first electron is directed, respectively, to the left or to the right. As a result, the conclusions of the observers will be inconsistent. What to do with physical reality?
From Bohr's point of view, there is no paradox here. If the spin orientation arises only in the course of measurement, then there is no need to talk about it outside of the experiment. Recall that we are free to choose detectors. How does the back know in advance in which direction it will be measured? It seems that the first electron instantly tells its twin that it has passed through the detector. But there is no physical interaction between them, so how do they manage to communicate?
We can get out of this impasse with the help of Schrödinger's guess: quantum correlations are stronger than classical ones. Then everything falls into place. We made a pair of electrons in an entangled state, hence the whole unusual behavior of their behavior in the EPR experiment. But Schrödinger formulated his hypothesis verbally, which is not enough for physics. Can it be translated into the language of numbers so that it can be verified by measurements?
Bell's Coming
This was first done by a gifted Irish physicist, whose name is not very well known to the general public. CERN researcher John Stuart Bell became interested in the EPR paradox in the 1960s. The result was the proof of a fundamental theorem confirming the possibility of a reliable experimental verification of the hypothesis of the existence of entangled states. Over time, in theoretical physics, a whole direction arose dedicated to the search for new versions of Bell's theorem.
Bell showed how to confirm or disprove the reality of entangled states based on Bohm's version of the EPR thought experiment. First, you need to use not less than two spin detectors, but not less than three, and even better - four. Second, the detectors should not be placed parallel or orthogonal, but at arbitrary angles.
Here is the ideal experimental design. There is a source of electron pairs with zero net spin, sending particles in opposite directions. We put a pair of spin detectors there, turning them arbitrarily with respect to each other. After each “turning on” of the source, one left and one right detector is triggered, but which ones are not known in advance.
And then - the most important thing. We encode the results of each measurement according to a certain rule with numbers from -1 to + 1, substitute them into an algebraic formula and average the results over all measurements. As a result, we obtain the value S, which depends on the angle at which the detectors are installed (we are talking about the mathematical expectation). Bell's theorem states that for unentangled particles, the values of the function S for any location of the detectors always lie in the range from -2 to +2 (Bell's inequality). Such a conclusion follows only from the assumption that each member of any electron pair, leaving the source, retains its own state, without being affected by a distant twin. If, on the other hand, the partner electrons far from the source are bound to each other, then the fulfillment of Bell's inequality is not guaranteed. Moreover, from quantum mechanical calculations it follows that for some orientations of the detectors, S can be either greater than +2 or less than -2. Therefore, the experimental verification of Bell's inequality opens the way to solving the problem.
Verification by experience
Making and registering entangled states is not an easy task. The first experiments to verify Bell's theorem were carried out with polarized photons. Instead of pairs of entangled electrons, pairs of light quanta with alternative polarization modes (for example, vertical and horizontal) were used, and polarization filters were used instead of magnetic detectors. Similar experiments began to be carried out in the 1970s, but they did not give unambiguous results. Only in 1982, a graduate student at the University of Paris, Alan Aspect, conducted a series of precision experiments with entangled photons, which were recognized as convincing. He proved that S can really go off scale for both +2 and -2. This means that entangled particles feel the presence of each other at any distance.
In the late 1980s, the Americans Daniel Greenberger and Michael Horn, together with the Austrian physicist Anton Seilinger, theoretically proved that experiments with triplets of entangled particles demonstrate the features of this phenomenon better than "pair" experiments. In 1999, entangled photonic triads were created for the first time in the Seilinger laboratory at the University of Vienna. Since then, the number of particles entangled in the experiment began to grow rapidly. So far, the record is held by physicists from the US National Institute of Standards and Technology, who at the end of last year produced six entangled beryllium ions. And in January, German physicists reported that for the first time they managed to "confuse" an atom with a photon.
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Stories, love stories at a distance. Is it possible, is there such a love? How to keep love through the distance?
An unusual love story… You are far from each other, you communicate only on the Internet. But a real feeling has already arisen between you, which will eclipse the whole world. Is there love in the distance? I will answer this way: for someone - yes, but for someone - no.
One way or another, love is more beautiful than anything beautiful on earth. And how she suddenly comes to hearts, how she knows how to cover with a wave and absorb everything in her path ....
Emails fly endlessly, various chats do not stop, the hand does not get tired of writing lines of love poems, the soul and heart sing, merging together, from thoughts about that half, which is so far away now, but at the same time so close ...
Stories, love stories at a distance. Is there such love and how to save it?
The psychology of love at a distance. A couple of years ago, I did not believe in such love. In general, I was very skeptical about Internet dating, and somewhere even with a mockery. I loved reality and lived in it, using the virtual world as a means of relaxation and information exchange.
One day, he knocked on the chat. Everything is as usual: acquaintance, communication, "duty" phrases .... But then we exchanged photos and the earth left from under our feet ... I fell in love! I fell in love like never before. This feeling was probably my first and only love.
Love at a distance and through distance. Internet love.
Something I got a little distracted and completely forgot to tell you about what types of Internet love are.
Correspondence love. It's simple: you fall in love with letters. In the manner of writing a letter, in letters, in phrases .... It seems to you that the person who is “hiding” behind the lines of an e-mail is the hero of your novel.
Love for "sometimes". This is the case when you meet somewhere on vacation, have a great time and agree to meet again. Well, respectively, keep in touch via the Internet.
Online is love. Yes, we are talking about chats. Nowadays, they are very popular. Yes, and it became much easier to get acquainted by chat than in real life. This is how love is born from emoticons.
By the way, you know that Scottish scientists have created a special device that imitates touch. Rings are put on the bodies of women and men that react to the slightest touch. They are transmitted instantly from a woman to a man.
Is there any point in love at a distance? If you have the patience, check it out. Anything happens. It is impossible to predict anything one hundred percent. Those who have experienced disappointment in such love argue, of course, that it does not exist. And those who have already married and are happily married idolize the Internet and are ready to shout at least to the whole world that love exists at a distance.
The only downside to this A: considerable financial costs (for the road, for presents and souvenirs, for tickets). However, of course, no one thinks about it. Love. What could be more important and more expensive? “Spreading the wings of love”, people who love each other rush through thousands of kilometers and obstacles to meet. You need to experience this feeling in order to understand how strong and "burning" it is.
Everything, of course, starts corny, romantically, and according to the same scenario. After a long conversation (and sometimes a very short one), people meet. The meeting takes place either at her house, or at his place, or - in general, somewhere on neutral territory. And after the meeting - 2 options for the rapid development of events. It happens that a person falls in love with one, and when they meet, it turns out that he is not at all like that (either the photo failed, or the feelings just got mixed up). It happens that everything ends with a wedding: flowers, courtship, romance, gifts, confessions and vows of eternal love ... Everything is beautiful, like in a movie. So, by the way, it was with my very good friend. They met on the Internet, talked. Then she took her daughter and moved to live with him, in a completely different country. They got married and now live very happily. Well, if the story of lovers online ends just like that, and not somehow sad and ugly.
Believe in love despite the distance, but be prepared for any turn of events. Make plans, dream, but remember that anything can happen. Be realistic, then, in which case, you will not be so hurt and not so offended. While there is an opportunity, live with your beloved, dissolve in it and do not think all the time that something bad can happen. Whether you are destined to be together or not - your meeting is not accidental, it happened for something. Perhaps in order to understand something and reconsider their life positions and views.
Remember: it is not distance that brings people closer, as many people think, but proximity brings them closer. Therefore, try, despite the kilometers, to see each other as often as possible in order not to let the flame of love “go out” (unless, of course, it was confused with falling in love). Do not swear, do not quarrel, do not shower reproaches on each other. After all, you have been waiting for this meeting for so long, dreaming about it so much. Why now darken it with all sorts of unnecessary words now? Touches, hugs, kisses, glances…. This is what is so lacking in these exciting, long-awaited minutes (even seconds). Pay no attention to the rain: it rejoices for you. Ignore the cold: you will warm each other. You are together again. This is perhaps the most important thing in the "period of unceasing hearts."
Live, feel, feel, love, enjoy!
And now about passion, for those who are looking for passion:
Passion for photography. Camera in hand - the world "flew". A person who loves to take pictures, in general, does not need anything other than pictures. Beautiful landscapes, unusual angles, natural beauties…. Everything that "fits" in the camera is an unearthly, priceless treasure for a person who is passionate about the art of photography. By the way, I know one "photoman". He is not even going to marry at twenty-eight, because he believes that a woman will greatly interfere with his hobby. He recently opened a workshop and bought a very expensive camera. This is how the happiest people on earth appear.
Passion between man and woman. Female and male passion.
But there is a more interesting, pleasant and mysterious passion: the passion of a man and a woman .... How, immediately, after writing these words, from the lines, it wafted with romance and tenderness .... There is so much of it that even the eyes reading this begin to dream of passion. Give your eyes a little passion and romantic mood. Just don’t get carried away too much: reading about passion and experiencing it are two big differences that cannot be compared.
Passion is often confused with love.. But this cannot be done: love and passion go side by side, and are not synonymous. I'll try to explain the difference.
Love is a feeling that loves to give. She is selfless, pure, immaculate and light. When you love, you go to any lengths for the sake of your loved one. When you love, reciprocity is not a mandatory component of feelings. People who love "grow wings." These wings are invisible, but they carry a man in love high, beyond the clouds.
Passion- a beautiful, but selfish feeling. It "takes", from a person, everything: time, space, thoughts, sensations, consciousness, inner world .... And it does not happen without reciprocity. It is reciprocity that creates passion. It is like a fire, an endless, incredibly strong flame that burns everything in its path. It's very hard not to burn out. If you are familiar with this, you will understand the meaning of each word and feel it.
Passion is like a candle that quickly lights up, but just as quickly can be extinguished by a breath of wind. You never know the moment when passion will “say goodbye” and disappear.
The passion of a woman for a man. Women's passion.
Women's passion is easier to keep for a longer time. She can live by love. When a woman falls in love, she does everything so that the feelings are in perfect harmony with each other, and do not “kill” each other. When a woman feels that passion is cooling down, she "conjures" the following:
He devotes more of his attention and time to his chosen one. She tries so hard to always be there, but here is a special case that should not be missed.
Less likely to see friends and acquaintances. Someone understands her such behavior, someone condemns her, believing that it is impossible to exchange her friends for a man. But she simply has no other choice and exit.
He tries not to linger at work, on the occasion of a corporate party. It cannot be said that she is a lover of a quiet life. Many women simply cannot live without holidays.
He writes beautiful messages to his beloved, in which he touches on the topic of love and her relationship to him. Women, as a rule, know how to write beautifully. And not only messages on a mobile phone. Remember how many of you wrote down everything that happened to you in your personal diary and hid it so that no one would “steal” secret information from it.
Often recalls the first meeting, the first kiss, romantic moments. In general, it is sad to admit that, most often, it is a woman who remembers such moments. A man prefers to live exclusively in the present and the future.
Conducts intimate experiments in bed. Perhaps this moment is more than pleasant for a man. By the way, statistics say that many males love different goods from the sex shop. But here a huge minus is that not all “adorable creatures” understand and accept such “adoration”.
The passion of a man for a woman. Male passion.
The man has a different passion. He tests it by being close to every woman he likes. What cannot be said about women: when they fall in love, they keep this passion, carrying it even through many years. Not all, of course, are like that. I'm talking about those women and girls who know how to love for real.
For a man, in an intimate life, passion is not very important. For him, the main factor is sympathy for the woman with whom he is in a relationship. Does he care about reciprocity? Yes, but it is not dominant.
Both man and woman know that passion is not an eternal feeling. And when the moment comes when it is no longer possible to return it with any "tricks", they compensate for the feeling of passion with love, which is still burning (or trying to burn) in their hearts.
Passion cannot be bought or artificially created. She either exists or she doesn't. Without love, of course, it is more difficult to live than without the presence of passion. However, there are many men and women for whom passion is an unusual and necessary drug. For them, passion is important in the eyes, in facial features, in facial expressions and gestures. When she is gone, it begins to seem to them that the feelings have passed, and it makes no sense to continue the relationship.
Everyone has their own priorities. You can't argue with them, you can't change them. And this, in fact, is useless: passion is not a constructor, and not plasticine, from which you can mold anything you want, whenever you want. But, when LOVE is combined with PASSION, this is of course a huge force.
P.S. It turns out that love is not only a state of mind that can be experienced in relation to a person, but also a necessary state to perform certain actions .. and much, much more.
There is a funny Jewish parable on this subject:
“A teenager came to Rabbi Levi and mournfully groaned:
- Rabbi! Why does no one love me, especially girls?
And the rabbi answered him:
“Because you don’t love anyone, especially yourself.”
talk
Of course, various instant messengers are much more convenient than Skype - you can be in touch with them all day. But still, try to talk to each other more often - and preferably on Skype, and not write messages. In correspondence, it is impossible to accurately convey intonation, even if you have been together for a long time and know each other perfectly. In a telephone conversation, you do not see each other's facial expressions - and you also lose a lot.
Talk about the little things
If it seems to you that you have absolutely nothing to talk about every day, stop inventing topics for conversation. This is what prevents you from keeping in touch - trying to come up with a topic for conversation. People who are nearby do not need it, and your task is to create the illusion that you are at arm's length. Therefore, talk about the little things that a couple living together would talk about: about household chores, about work, about the fact that the cat was again hunting for a vacuum cleaner. This will bring you closer than talking about joint dreams and plans for the future.
Don't talk about what separates you
If your darling has gone to another country, you will, of course, be very interested to know how life works there. But the less you ask about it, the better (unless, of course, you are going to move in with him). Because the feeling of a completely alien world will sooner or later begin to be associated with a loved one. And he, too, will become a stranger.
Feel free to express your feelings
How to keep a long distance relationship? Writing cute messages gets boring in the second week, lisping with a telephone receiver is somehow stupid, video communication also does not have special tenderness. But it is important to understand that you need it. You have already lost a huge layer in relationships - lovers express most of their feelings non-verbally: holding hands, hugging and kissing. While you are deprived of this opportunity, you will have to make up for tenderness with words.
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Meet regularly
It is clear that the frequency of your meetings depends on many factors: distance, study or work schedule, finances. But you must set a meeting schedule on a "at least as often as" basis. Can we meet in six months? So be it, but you must know for sure that this meeting will take place. Agree on this in advance - this is an important tip for long-distance relationships. The "how it goes" option doesn't work. Will not work.
Meet on neutral ground
If you have to part for a long time, choose a point on the map that is convenient for both of you to reach, and meet there. Do not allow a situation in which you, for example, sit and wait for him to deign to visit you. He will also feel uncomfortable, because you are on your own territory, you are the hostess, and he is just a guest. In neutral territory, you are on an equal footing, and this removes a lot of problems.
do something together
Fortunately, today's communication tools allow you to choose food for dinner together in real time: for example, turn on Skype and go to the store. This is incredibly close, because, firstly, it creates the illusion of presence, and secondly, it removes the problem “we have nothing to talk about.”
Don't lie to each other
Lying in a long distance relationship is extremely convenient because the partner will never know that he was deceived. The problem is that you get used to lying. When you are around again, it will be difficult to unlearn the habit of lying and keeping back, hiding some uncomfortable moments. Of course, there is no way you can check if your sweetheart is lying to you. But at least don't lie to yourself. This will greatly help your future relationship.
Don't be jealous
Is love possible at a distance without jealousy? Jealousy is generally difficult to fight, and in a long-distance relationship it is almost impossible. Therefore, there is no need to even start - psychologists give such advice about long-distance relationships. All you can do is trust your partner, there are no other options. This must be taken for granted. If you are not ready, it is better to leave. If he is not ready, it is simply necessary to part: it will still happen a little later, but before that he will have time to thoroughly ruin your life, forcing you to constantly make excuses.
Don't suffer
And one more important advice about love at a distance. Don't turn your life into a waiting room. It is important to understand that there are only two options: either you live a full life - yes, for now, each on your own, but only for now - or you break up. People are poorly adapted to suffering, our psyche tends to reject everything that is associated with negative feelings. So, the more you worry about the fact that your loved one is far from you, the sooner you will realize that this stranger, in essence, a person wildly annoys you. And maybe stop answering his calls. If this outcome does not suit you, try to worry as little as possible about the fact that your loved one is not around. It's temporary, it's not forever.
Do you believe in love from a distance? Feelings that stand the test of time and kilometers of roads? Relationships that, on the one hand, really exist, and on the other, they seem to not exist at all? Few will answer these questions in the affirmative. Someone has experienced such feelings first hand, learned a bitter lesson from them, and now believes that he has the right to boldly warn others from his own mistakes.
And someone, in principle, is full of skepticism towards those relationships in which both participants cannot regularly see, hear, touch each other. After all, it is so important to feel the presence of a loved one nearby. Not to know that he is somewhere far away ... namely, to feel daily care, attention and support. In addition, it is difficult to imagine a love relationship between two adults without an intimate component. How to realize your attraction and passion, if a loved one exists only on the monitor screen and on the phone? Is trust possible in such couples? There are so many temptations around, and life is given only once. There are no guarantees that while you selflessly reread sad love messages and only sigh in response, your other half is faithful to you. After all, in which case, the truth will never be revealed anyway. So does love exist at a distance?
Sometimes love comes to us absolutely unexpectedly and, despite the arguments of the mind, one really wants to believe that everything will end with a happy ending for you. You just meet THE SAME person at a youth camp, a business trip, during a seaside vacation, or you start an innocent correspondence with a stranger on the Internet, absolutely not assuming that the prankster Amur intends to shoot his arrows at you today. And very soon the phone is bursting with calls, and social networks are full of sad and passionate 
messages. And then, you already make promises to each other that you will find the opportunity to be together forever. And the hope warms the soul that this is exactly what will happen, otherwise why were you once brought together by fate at one point in space and time ...
It happens differently when feelings in a real couple are tested for strength by temporary separation. He or she leaves to study in another city or country, the husband or wife is forced to be absent from home for a long time due to business trips. And between short intoxicating meetings, they have everything that was described a little higher - calls and SMS, talking about love and the burden of separation.
How each love story will end, no one knows in advance.
Quite often love fades in the distance. You just get used to living and coping alone, and gradually life is filled with the same colors. And one day you realize that the light has not converged like a wedge on one single person, and then you meet a new 
love. However, it also happens otherwise. When the desire to be together is so great that temporary separation does not frighten, but only gives strength to move forward to the upcoming meeting. When loving hearts find the strength to wait and believe, and then, the opportunity to be together, no matter what. Probably, this is true love, which was once sung by F. La Rochefoucauld. “Parting weakens petty passions and intensifies great ones, just as the wind blows out candles and blows out the flame,” he argued. Love at a distance has the right to exist. And whether it has a future depends only on us.
Irina Drozdova